It’s tough depending on the kindness of others. The truth of it is, people are usually kind when it’s easy for them to be. They tend to treat others poorly or of lesser intelligence for being in such a position. They think to themselves, “I would never let something like that happen to me.” or “That’s too bad. Glad it’s not me.”
I don’t think less of them or question their intellectual capacity for thinking that way. I may consider them inexperienced and naive in life experiences. That’s what happens if you exist in a nice safe little bubble. And although some may express ‘care’ they just don’t know. ‘It’s hard to say, not knowing’.
There’s always pressure on me about when I’ll be able to care for myself, get a car, a job, a place of my own. Time frames are demanded. Anger expressed. How long does it take to mend a broken heart? To rebuild yourself financially from nothing? To get a job in a poor economy and your references are screwed from your divorce? If you realize the valuelessness in consumerism? It’s not easy to answer those questions. Depending on kindness from others puts you in a precarious position. You’re always one step away from getting the boot if they’re feeling unkind.
You have to wonder why some people do offer their help and kindness. My experience is that most people want something for it. Sex for a place to stay. A trade of goods for services or vice versa. And when you don’t have the goods, if they aren’t willing to trade for services, and you won’t offer sex, it makes you re-examine what kindness truly is.
So ask yourself, have I ever really ‘walked a mile in someone else’s shoes’? Understand what it truly means to have empathy, help and be kind to someone in need? I hope you can live with your answer to that question. I truly do. Unfortunate things can happen to anyone at any time and we all need a little kindness at some point in our lives. Giving kindness is not about what you expect to receive in return. Thinking anything otherwise, well, that’s just selfish talking.
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